Go Together

One of the greatest joys in my life and in my marriage is getting to do things with my husband.  People may laugh or find it strange, but I love going grocery shopping with my spouse.  If we have to wash the cars, I want to go with.  If we are getting gas in the cars - which my wonderful spouse ALWAYS does for me or if I am trying on clothes - which of course I want to look my very best for him, we try to go together!

I think that the reason that I always want to do things with my spouse and not on my own isn't because I am incapable of doing things by myself; because I have filled the tank of gas on my own, gone grocery shopping alone, went clothes shopping by myself, the list goes on and on.  But I don't like doing these things on my own, especially when I know that my spouse is at home by himself.  I always think - why aren't we doing this together?

I know that this could change when we have children, but honestly I doubt it will (the only change will be our children will be with us too and we might not get to do it for everything like we can now!).  I doubt it will change because for me, spending time with my man is the greatest time I will ever spend.  Whether we are sitting on the couch doing nothing or washing the cars or shopping for groceries - if I get to spend that time with the person that I love the most, then the sometimes meaningless tasks or the things that aren't very fun become a joy because we get to do them together.

Of course we spend time together without it being at the grocery store or shopping.  We make intentional time to be with each other (something I am going to post about later this week), but when it comes to shopping or bills or any of the rote things that being an adult consists of, doing them together is the best!

This past weekend we had wonderful weather which allowed us to wash the cars, go on a bike ride (which I almost died on - not used to all the hills where we live), visit our Alma Matter, see some amazing Chalk Art, and so many other things.  I know for certain that if we wouldn't have done these things together, they would not have been nearly as fun - sure we would have enjoyed them separately or with our friends, but not in the same way.  It is impossible to experience things with other people the way that you get to experience them with your spouse.

I am not saying that you shouldn't do things by yourself, for yourself, with yourself or your friends (other than your Best Friend, aka your spouse), but I am saying that when you do the same tasks day in and day out, take your best friend.  Do the things that suck the most or are the most meaningless or boring and do them with the person that lights up your life. 


I hope that you have a wonderful start to your week!  I hope that this week you will find one opportunity to do something with your spouse that you either normally don't do with them or is one of the rote tasks of life.  Take them with, be involved together in finding the groceries in the aisle or sending the money out for bills.  You'll not only find that the task is better with your "better half" but it is also finished quicker!